How do I turn my wish into reality?

Growing up in NYC, museums, tiny parks, TV shows, and horrible odors are what I got used to. But deep inside, I know there is another way of living, where you can have fresh clean air every day, all day, where you can spend every day hiking or strolling around a lake without needing a car to get anywhere, where there is a community of loving people of all ages ready to embrace you and always treat you with kindness and respect, where you are never bored nor lonely and don't use any electronic devices at all. Maybe that includes traveling, maybe it doesn't even need to. Maybe I feel restless because I still haven't found my place or the people who I feel belonging with. Most of my life so far, I've been running from one place to another--- and when I wasn't running, I wanted to. I met many people along the way and just when I thought "maybe", they'd vanish. Maybe "maybe" isn't enough, maybe I need a "definitely".

Writing is my passion so I thought I'd share this thought for anyone who feels the same or resonates.

You dont state your age, but you might want to check into becoming a Boot at Wheaton Labs.  This would give you the opportunity to test the waters to see if the lifestyle fits you. I started out in Detroit, so I am aware that there can be a culture shock.

John F Dean wrote:You dont state your age, but you might want to check into becoming a Boot at Wheaton Labs.  This would give you the opportunity to test the waters to see if the lifestyle fits you. I started out in Detroit, so I am aware that there can be a culture shock.

That's interesting! I'm 34, and I know I love being in nature and that I need a change. The only question is where and to what extent. I am open to ideas and prefer to stay away from power lines as an electrosensitive.

Mariya Bee wrote: I know there is another way of living, where you can have fresh clean air every day, all day, where you can spend every day hiking or strolling around a lake without needing a car to get anywhere,.

I live there ...  only the lake aka pond has no water.

If this is something that you wish for then make it happen with positive thoughts and a vision of being there.

You did not say want kind of work you do.  I have met a large number of traveling medical folks in the last few years.  The most common time seems to be a 13 week contract with the hospital systems.  The only down side that I've heard of is to avoid the high tax states in the NE,

If you could sign on with an agency to do some traveling work, live and see many different areas and best of all, still be paid!!

Best of luck to you.  I live in central Virginia, 4 seasons, with hot and humid summers, short winters(3 months) with temps seldom below (only a few days at a time) 20f.  And some still "fair" land prices around, takes some looking, lots of searching.

Peace

Wanted to add that I lived in the city and the suburbs before. The city just feels like too much and being outside quickly turns into a frowny face because of all the sounds, smells, and too many cars... So you settle for being indoors most of the time, staring at screens.

Then I thought things would be different in the suburbs when I lived there with a family friend. Her yard was pretty big but it was all surrounded by power lines. I was so surprised but people spent most of their time indoors too doing the same things, staring at screens. And I could understand why, there was nowhere to go by foot, there were roads made for cars and highways for going to stores.

Is the world made for people's happiness or for cars, to make them more necessary than they need to be, to pay for more gas, etc. ?

I'm thinking of a place where there's plenty to explore by foot, in nature, and still has the means to get people's needs met.

It sounds as if you may be a good fit for Wheaton Labs.  You might want to make contact https://permies.com/wiki/bootcamp#2867613

John F Dean wrote:It sounds as if you may be a good fit for Wheaton Labs.  You might want to make contact https://permies.com/wiki/bootcamp#2867613

It sounds interesting but far from NY. Is anyone going there so I could join? I don't travel alone...

Deane Adams wrote:You did not say want kind of work you do.  I have met a large number of traveling medical folks in the last few years.  The most common time seems to be a 13 week contract with the hospital systems.  The only down side that I've heard of is to avoid the high tax states in the NE,

If you could sign on with an agency to do some traveling work, live and see many different areas and best of all, still be paid!!

Best of luck to you.  I live in central Virginia, 4 seasons, with hot and humid summers, short winters(3 months) with temps seldom below (only a few days at a time) 20f.  And some still "fair" land prices around, takes some looking, lots of searching.

Peace

I'm a writer/author but not getting paid at the moment.

I am interested in what sorts of things you write if you’d be comfortable sharing? I am interested to hear.

As for the turning wish into reality… persistence and patience seem essential to me so far. I am a bit further than I was a few years ago but it was a long and hard way here.

M Ljin wrote:I am interested in what sorts of things you write if you’d be comfortable sharing? I am interested to hear.

As for the turning wish into reality… persistence and patience seem essential to me so far. I am a bit further than I was a few years ago but it was a long and hard way here.

That's fair, yes, I'll add a bit of faith to that. It feels important these days.

And I wrote 3 books in 2017 helping people to feel empowered, turning pessimism into optimism, and helping them see they are always doing their best from their current state of mind and situation; and a few years later I compiled a poetry book :)

But it came as a harsh awakening when I realized most of what I was doing was online and I was not creating for myself what I tried helping others to create.... a dream life.

I was just going to edit to add faith in the unknown, but you already said it!

When we went to New York we went through St Claire, Michigan.  It was very pretty.

Have you visited the Adirondack Mountains? Saranac Lake is pretty.

Cold Spring is pretty and on the Hudson River.

Why do you not travel alone?  That sounds limiting.  Getting on an air plane you are not alone.  Kids fly like that all the time.  Your new best friend might be sitting next to you.  

Since you like to write has you consider a job as a traveling journalist?

Have you tried finding remote work?  Remote work gives people the freedom to travel and live where ever they want.

Last night I saw a show about a women who wanted much what you want so she applied to a lot of online job ads and found one in a place she wanted to live.  

As an (Upstate) New Yorker, I would recommend taking some baby steps to perhaps feel out such a big change? Could you catch a train up/drive up towards Albany county and explore the surrounding farmland/forests to get a feel for the area?

There is a ton of agrotourism in the area with a trend happening of farmers moving towards organic/alternative/less conventional farming styles.

Speaking for myself, for a long time I thought I had to rely on someone else to get to where I want to go. I was unafraid of making mistakes to be honest. As soon as I realized that I had a form of analysis paralysis, I started to challenge the anxiety I felt and push through it. I still make mistakes, but I also feel empowered because I usually can fix those mistakes.

Anne Miller wrote:When we went to New York we went through St Claire, Michigan.  It was very pretty.

Have you visited the Adirondack Mountains? Saranac Lake is pretty.

Cold Spring is pretty and on the Hudson River.

Why do you not travel alone?  That sounds limiting.  Getting on an air plane you are not alone.  Kids fly like that all the time.  Your new best friend might be sitting next to you.  

Since you like to write has you consider a job as a traveling journalist?

Have you tried finding remote work?  Remote work gives people the freedom to travel and live where ever they want.

Last night I saw a show about a women who wanted much what you want so she applied to a lot of online job ads and found one in a place she wanted to live.  

I haven't been to Adirondack mountains, but I've been all over upstate NY, Catskills, Woodstock, and New Paltz, even these places are becoming pretty urbanized compared to what I was looking for.

I've looked into many different options, just don't feel safe traveling alone, and I already spend most of my time alone. I sense that I need something that won't make me rely on electronics, it's been a pretty clear journey in that department...

But ultimately I think I'd need a miracle to help me figure out my next steps at this point because nothing I come up with feels right

Timothy Norton wrote:As an (Upstate) New Yorker, I would recommend taking some baby steps to perhaps feel out such a big change? Could you catch a train up/drive up towards Albany county and explore the surrounding farmland/forests to get a feel for the area?

There is a ton of agrotourism in the area with a trend happening of farmers moving towards organic/alternative/less conventional farming styles.

Speaking for myself, for a long time I thought I had to rely on someone else to get to where I want to go. I was unafraid of making mistakes to be honest. As soon as I realized that I had a form of analysis paralysis, I started to challenge the anxiety I felt and push through it. I still make mistakes, but I also feel empowered because I usually can fix those mistakes.

Oh yeah, I've been all over upstate, and I lived near Binghamton I believe for a few weeks where it felt kinda limiting in regards to where to walk to from the house. I assume there are more rural places with access to the mountains from the house. Haven't been to one of those!

And yeah mistakes could be something that keeps people back but they also help people evolve, that's their purpose, so no mistakes

Hi Mariya,

As M Ljin already said, faith and patience are the mantra - next to taking micro steps towards your wish.
Is there anything in your current surroundings that aligns with your wish?
When I was "stuck in the suburbs" I volunteered in a healing herbs garden.

Maybe you could turn your yearning into writing? Write about that what you envision, turn it into an essay, or maybe it grows into something bigger? Then publish it in a digital format.

I'm a bit of a clumsy writer (but I do envision and manifest in the full spectrum of colours!) - here's an excerpt of a guide I wrote on Manifesting. .

You could even start writing about your journey - from dream to reality - on Substack?

You're young and you know what you want. You're winning already.

Like Paul says; try a hundred things. Two will work out.

Good luck, stay true to your Self ... and stay in contact!

Nina Surya wrote:Hi Mariya,

As M Ljin already said, faith and patience are the mantra - next to taking micro steps towards your wish.
Is there anything in your current surroundings that aligns with your wish?
When I was "stuck in the suburbs" I volunteered in a healing herbs garden.

Maybe you could turn your yearning into writing? Write about that what you envision, turn it into an essay, or maybe it grows into something bigger? Then publish it in a digital format.

I'm a bit of a clumsy writer (but I do envision and manifest in the full spectrum of colours!) - here's an excerpt of a guide I wrote on Manifesting. .

You could even start writing about your journey - from dream to reality - on Substack?

You're young and you know what you want. You're winning already.

Like Paul says; try a hundred things. Two will work out.

Good luck, stay true to your Self ... and stay in contact!

Hi Nina, I read your article and it's exactly what I was trying to work on last night, letting go of the needy energy. It feels like I need to accept things exactly as they are... Which is a challenge on its' own. I definitely wrote a lot about my vision. It varies from total minimalism and simplicity with experiments on how much humans really need in order to be happy to traveling to new places around the world and trying that there?, to inviting more people to join and take a break from their routines to reconnect with simplicity together... It's confusing sometimes but it feels best to me and always involves a group of like-minded eager loving people.

Mariya,
I love the energy you've got going on. It's good stuff, cherish it, tend to it - like you would tend to a warming fire, or a nourishing, beautiful garden.
So at the same time; being relaxed and open in the here and now, observing the world without getting engaged too much. And at the same time knowing exactly where you're headed, feeling the joy fluttering inside of you for the fact that you have already arrived!
It's a crazy timeloop, time folding on itself... But if you can imagine it, you can live it.
Patience...and those little steps that you can take in the here and now. Faith ~ you've already arrived. Now the material world just has to catch up with all this energy work.
Sounds a bit abstract and crazy, but something tells me your intuition catches the vibe. And if not, just say so and I'll try to elaborate!

Nina Surya wrote:Mariya,
I love the energy you've got going on. It's good stuff, cherish it, tend to it - like you would tend to a warming fire, or a nourishing, beautiful garden.
So at the same time; being relaxed and open in the here and now, observing the world without getting engaged too much. And at the same time knowing exactly where you're headed, feeling the joy fluttering inside of you for the fact that you have already arrived!
It's a crazy timeloop, time folding on itself... But if you can imagine it, you can live it.
Patience...and those little steps that you can take in the here and now. Faith ~ you've already arrived. Now the material world just has to catch up with all this energy work.
Sounds a bit abstract and crazy, but something tells me your intuition catches the vibe. And if not, just say so and I'll try to elaborate!

Yes, I'm totally understanding what you're saying, I've been into law of attraction work since my early 20's. I wanted to go beyond the whole "let go and forget" in order to make it happen (despite evidence that this is how it worked in the past) and step into more conscious creation, like waving a magic wand and your desire appears haha

P.S. you wrote it beautifully, Nina.

Essentially it's like going from watching movies of people exploring nature and falling in love while crying on a couch because you have not found anything that excites you more in your area, to actually experiencing this yourself.... My mantra is "I am creating a reality that is more fun than all of my favorite movies" I'm also at this point where I want to let go of everything that I got used to including mostly being indoors, movies, shows, and relying on the internet.... I want to shed all of the old (which is ironically "modern")

I'm glad we're speaking each other's language

I 100% understand what you mean with waving the magic wand.
Well, that bit is the active bit; taking curious babysteps in the world. Following your curiosity, doing what you love.
And for every baby step you take, Life will take leaps towards you, and you meet each other when the timing is just right.

Patience has been one of my toughest lessons. And yet, when I look back at my life (now 50, 51 on Tuesday ), I can see every delay and detour have taught me essential skills to have in the "arriving" bit.

So...have fun and trust the journey.
And perhaps write about it, even poetry or fiction, as you're adventuring onwards!

As to the travelling alone-bit; have you read travel-books written by women? I find them really inspiring!

Nina Surya wrote:I'm glad we're speaking each other's language

I 100% understand what you mean with waving the magic wand.
Well, that bit is the active bit; taking curious babysteps in the world. Following your curiosity, doing what you love.
And for every baby step you take, Life will take leaps towards you, and you meet each other when the timing is just right.

Patience has been one of my toughest lessons. And yet, when I look back at my life (now 50, 51 on Tuesday ), I can see every delay and detour have taught me essential skills to have in the "arriving" bit.

So...have fun and trust the journey.
And perhaps write about it, even poetry or fiction, as you're adventuring onwards!

As to the travelling alone-bit; have you read travel-books written by women? I find them really inspiring!

Thank you for the advice! I saw the movie "wild" of a solo traveler, but I would feel much more comfortable with someone with me, maybe even a hired bodyguard if I was rich lol

Mariya Bee wrote:
Thank you for the advice! I saw the movie "wild" of a solo traveler, but I would feel much more comfortable with someone with me, maybe even a hired bodyguard if I was rich lol

Haha, OK, I get you. In that case include a travelling partner in your wish! Man/woman? Friend/guide/bodyguard/romance/all of the above? If there's no clear first opinion (like in a split second knowing), you don't have to specify, Life will bring that to you what you need. But yes, include the travelmate in the vision.
Then...wave your magic wand (= take small babysteps towards making that vision reality) and *POOF!* your Magic spell has been made!

Whenever inspiration hits you to take more little steps, do that, in the direction of your intuitive calling.

Happy journeying!

This reminds me of Miriam Lancewood who is a great inspiration to me.

From her YouTube profile:

Miriam Lancewood survived for 7 years with her husband Peter in the wilderness of New Zealand. Without technology (not even a clock), they roamed the high mountains like nomads, slept in a tent, cooked on a fire, and Miriam learned how to hunt with bow and arrow. Their experiences and observations are unique in this modern, technological world.

She has written some books but I mostly have looked at her channel, and interviews, because the books are harder to come by. https://m.youtube.com/@miriamlancewoodinthewild

Nina Surya wrote:

Mariya Bee wrote:
Thank you for the advice! I saw the movie "wild" of a solo traveler, but I would feel much more comfortable with someone with me, maybe even a hired bodyguard if I was rich lol

Haha, OK, I get you. In that case include a travelling partner in your wish! Man/woman? Friend/guide/bodyguard/romance/all of the above? If there's no clear first opinion (like in a split second knowing), you don't have to specify, Life will bring that to you what you need. But yes, include the travelmate in the vision.
Then...wave your magic wand (= take small babysteps towards making that vision reality) and *POOF!* your Magic spell has been made!

Whenever inspiration hits you to take more little steps, do that, in the direction of your intuitive calling.

Happy journeying!

Thank you! Definitely male is what came to me, so far my intuition tells me to just focus on myself and be present, feels very oppositional to action but also feels important considering I ignored my body a lot of the time, thanks to so many distractions in this modern world

M Ljin wrote:This reminds me of Miriam Lancewood who is a great inspiration to me.

From her YouTube profile:

Miriam Lancewood survived for 7 years with her husband Peter in the wilderness of New Zealand. Without technology (not even a clock), they roamed the high mountains like nomads, slept in a tent, cooked on a fire, and Miriam learned how to hunt with bow and arrow. Their experiences and observations are unique in this modern, technological world.

She has written some books but I mostly have looked at her channel, and interviews, because the books are harder to come by. https://m.youtube.com/@miriamlancewoodinthewild

Wow, super interesting! I'll check it out, thank you

Mariya Bee wrote:

Thank you! Definitely male is what came to me, so far my intuition tells me to just focus on myself and be present, feels very oppositional to action but also feels important considering I ignored my body a lot of the time, thanks to so many distractions in this modern world

Anyone who is happy in their own skin and contently following their own life flow is easy to be with, attractive even, so you're doing the right thing!

1. Have you Googled "Intentional Communities"? I believe there's a list somewhere of them.

2. The "Bootcamp" mentioned above is an Intentional Community that focuses on learning skills. That got me thinking that if you haven't explored this site much, you may have missed the SkIP program. https://permies.com/c/skip
Some of those skills require land, but some can be done in backyards, public parks, and apartments. It would be a step towards the reality you describe.

3. The travelling alone thing is a challenge. I also recall reading about a "solo women van group" that links their people for travelling. You would be in your own vehicle, but you'd be going like a convoy and have company wherever you stop. Then you have to find your destination and plan a way to get there.

4. I do get the fresh air and low car usage thing. Bike paths have been slowly expanding in my area, and the local town is more walkable than many in North America, but it takes a lot of push from committed groups to make it happen. My homestead is long and narrow, so now that I've drunk my tea, I will be off to walk past a garden area, through a mini- forest, until I am greeted by my geese at the entrance to a 3 acre field. Alas, they don't really want me for anything more than fresh water and some breakfast, but they still greet me noisily.

Jay Angler wrote:1. Have you Googled "Intentional Communities"? I believe there's a list somewhere of them.

2. The "Bootcamp" mentioned above is an Intentional Community that focuses on learning skills. That got me thinking that if you haven't explored this site much, you may have missed the SkIP program. https://permies.com/c/skip
Some of those skills require land, but some can be done in backyards, public parks, and apartments. It would be a step towards the reality you describe.

3. The travelling alone thing is a challenge. I also recall reading about a "solo women van group" that links their people for travelling. You would be in your own vehicle, but you'd be going like a convoy and have company wherever you stop. Then you have to find your destination and plan a way to get there.

4. I do get the fresh air and low car usage thing. Bike paths have been slowly expanding in my area, and the local town is more walkable than many in North America, but it takes a lot of push from committed groups to make it happen. My homestead is long and narrow, so now that I've drunk my tea, I will be off to walk past a garden area, through a mini- forest, until I am greeted by my geese at the entrance to a 3 acre field. Alas, they don't really want me for anything more than fresh water and some breakfast, but they still greet me noisily.

Yes, I have looked into intentional communities, but for some reason my gut would say "no" to them, so far at least, not sure why but intuition knows more than the logical mind...

And haha, that really sounds like a lovely walk!

What more do humans need than nature, a place to explore, healthy food, water, and companionship? We are not so different from animals but created a world that tells us otherwise and drives us to consume more and more when what we actually need is slipping away while we are too distracted to notice....

NYC has wonderful big parks. If I lived there, I would just go ahead and stay there. Just branch out and find the WALKABLE nature that's right there in your own city. Can't get much better than NYC for walkable, plus a surprising amount of (accessible to all) nature.

Jenny Nazak wrote:NYC has wonderful big parks. If I lived there, I would just go ahead and stay there. Just branch out and find the WALKABLE nature that's right there in your own city. Can't get much better than NYC for walkable, plus a surprising amount of (accessible to all) nature.

I am not near a big park, it would take over an hour train ride to get there, which I avoid. But regardless I want to connect with real nature that is spacious, where you can walk barefoot on grass, say hi to deer and talk to the birds, in solitude or with a friend, only sounds of birds, no car noises or odors

Just wanted to share that I came across some information about how important grounding is, to walk barefoot on grass, for our well-being. It's not a luxury but a need that I feel uncomfortable to do in city parks where you don't even know what you're stepping on! I recently visited a semi wild park in New Jersey and the message I received was that if people had access to real (untouched by man) nature daily, peace would be the norm.

I really want to test out my theories, seriously. I really believe that people would be so much happier in a community in nature where there's enough space to roam around and take walks, lie on the grass, sleep under the stars, and also have your favorite person/people with you! Other than the basics, what more is needed?

If only I knew where to test them out haha. It definitely has to be off grid...

A bit of a backstory for those who are curious: I used to travel (mindlessly) by bus and train all the time, to college and various jobs. Then I got into spirituality, read many books and did Kundalini Yoga every day. All of this changed me, I began to feel the energy around me and understand how unnatural modern life is for humans, it's like an invisible (or visible) prison for the true spirit that just wishes to be free and connected to something "bigger".