Giving up

Unfortunately I'm giving up on this website. They changed the UI to not have the customizable option anymore and the standard one is the most cluster f from the early 00's of websites UI I've seen since back then. I don't even know how to navigate the clutter to post in the correct place but I thought it'd be fair for the owners to hear the reflection. Good luck and good bye.

I think I'm coming up on 8 years . . . it's been hard for me too. I moved onto my land about 4 months ago after solar was installed. But I don't have really much else - no running water, no bathroom, no kitchen, no oven (well, I sort of made a rocket stove; but I'm not allowed to have open flames during fire season; plus it's too hot now to use it anyway). I'm thinking I'm going to move to Asia. Ha ha. But I'm serious. I think if I had just one person here to help me and/or be in a relationship with me or an investment partner in this endeavour or a platonic friend, maybe I could hang in here.

But bathing, for instance, takes a looooooong time, because of all of the things I need to do. How do I wash dishes or do laundry?

Anyway, I hope you find someone. I hope I find someone! If anyone is interested in living part time in Europe and part time in Taiwan and part time in Japan, let's chat!

Mike Bettis wrote:

Craig Lewis wrote:Give up your mind as to thinking you need someone. The neededness can or is an issue. It's like fear, other sense it.

It's best to set one self up. Seems most women are looking for independence. And that done seem to include a relationship in the normal ways.

Most are online looking, for they are jot out and about looking locally for life is busy and one is working.

So we go online seeking the world for someone that may match one's lifestyle, or close enough that one can have or start a relationship.

Do I need a partner. No
Would I like a partner, yes.
Should I have a partner. Only God knows and if it happens. Of great. If not, or great. I still will ne happy and content.

Sometimes the things we wish for, don't aways work out as we wish.

Keep working away. And be observant to those around us. And start with a coffee or a walk. And build up from there.

Maybe Love or Partner is local 🤔

Where in my post did it say I needed someone? I didn't. I simply asked how others that were truly homesteading alone were fairing.

"6 years into my search for a true partnership and love and I'm on the verge of giving up."

If one is in search of something, it means they are lost or need that which they are searching for.

Or why be searching for it or anything.

Sorry its a touching subject.

Thanks for the thumbs down. Shows it was the wrong button I pushed. Nothing negative was sent from my side. Yet maybe I know why you have 6 years of no luck.

Sorry did I push another button ;) LOL

i can really relate to this.

i can do the building and repairing here myself.  just sometimes miss having a partner.  it's strange finishing a big project and having no one to tell at the end of the day.  very anticlimactic!

the funny thing is i feel like i've developed a romantic (for lack of a better word) relationship with the forest.  i feel more tree or wind than human some days.  calling myself unrelatable is an understatement at this point, lol.

any other single people becoming an extension of their land in place of having a romantic partner?

rissa

ris steele wrote:the funny thing is i feel like i've developed a romantic (for lack of a better word) relationship with the forest.  i feel more tree or wind than human some days.  

Now there is something I can relate to!

It reminds me of the old mythology about marrying the land

ris steele wrote:
the funny thing is i feel like i've developed a romantic (for lack of a better word) relationship with the forest.  i feel more tree or wind than human some days.

I would hesitate at calling my relationship with the wilds and my own physical world romantic, but the feeling is the same for me as with relationships I have with humans, completely.

There is a give and take, there is communication, there are moods. There is support that is asked for, offered, given and even at times, withheld. We are none of us alone in this journey of being alive, and everything is connected. For me it is a profound source of comfort and communion, to recognize the same spark of spirit in all things.

That said, there is great power too in beings of the same species coming together. I came to my relationship with the land because I am alone there more often than not (alone as in the singular human in the landscape), but I also have a loving and supportive human partner with whom I share the large and small wonders of this life. It is beyond precious.

Would it be enough, I wonder, to live and love only the land? To substitute entirely human connection for the velvet caresses and banshee screams of the wind? Perhaps, and perhaps not.  I do not wish to know, anytime soon.  May we all find sustaining connection, in whatever form. ❤️

Lately there's been a couple of roosters sleeping in the fruit trees near my house and they very loudly start crowing at about 3:30 a.m. and don't stop till they're ready to go foraging in the morning, it's been awful for my sleep. My whole life the wild roosters would sleep on the giant hillside of trees further away from my house but this new generation... Also lately the wild pigs have ate my sweet corn I was trying to save for seeds, dug up and ate all my purple sweet potatoes, and trampled and flattened a lot of my watermelon plants. Giving up isn't exactly the feeling but I don't even want to go out side and look at all my plants first thing in the morning anymore, it used to be part of my daily pattern but with low sleep and expectation of nightly damage I just don't want to. Little by little a sort of primal instinct is setting in and kind of like the rooster crows to establish it's territory I will have to establish my own.

We can give up together <3 Hope this made you smile!