Danielle Venegas wrote: Get on public assistance or whatever it takes.
Miles Flansburg wrote:
If not he will continue to be angry and at some point he will snap.
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Bethany Dutch wrote:
I've been thinking, really thinking HARD about why I haven't asked him to leave yet. I feel guilty, that's a big part of it...
Bethany Dutch wrote:
All of this I should be able to get done within the next few weeks. That will get me dry firewood, a refrigerator, no bags of trash in the house and a semi-normalish looking toilet.
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Bethany Dutch wrote:
So to sum it up - why do I stay? Why didn't I leave for good before, in '07? I think because a part of me sees the potential in him and wants to believe he can/will make a change. I feel like as a Christian I am supposed to not get divorced unless there has been infidelity or abandonment - which I would really say his actions are - but I think I felt like it has taken me this long to really confront the fact that no, things are NOT going to change, will NOT get better.
Bethany Dutch wrote:
First thing up was a CO and smoke detector - bought them yesterday and installed them today.
Next up are a few things - I have a costco carport that is currently not being used and I'm going to hire my nephew to come stack our snow covered wood pile under it, and also build a pallet enclosure for the sawdust that will be covered under the carport.
I'm going to just hire a professional to repair the propane fridge that we have and set it up so I can use it.
I've also drawn up some plans for a nice enclosure I want to build for the bucket toilet and sawdust container, so that if you walk into the bathroom all you will see is a wooden bench with a toilet seat on it (and it will also hide/store the sawdust bucket and extra TP). Right now or toilet is just a sawdust bucket under a handicapped toilet seat thingy (you know, it looks like a 4 legged walker but it has a toilet seat in the middle of it), so it's kind of an eyesore and makes things look worse than they are.
The other big thing is that between trips to the dump, we keep our bags of trash in the bathroom to keep critters from going through it outside. It really gets to be quite the eyesore though. I'm going to look for some more pallets and build a trash enclosure out of them, so I can store bags of trash outside and not worry about messes being made.
All of this I should be able to get done within the next few weeks. That will get me dry firewood, a refrigerator, no bags of trash in the house and a semi-normalish looking toilet.
I've been looking online at various discussions on the topic and the general consensus seems to be that CPS just wants things to be clean and you have to be able to clean and cook properly, kids need to be clean, etc. There are no hard and fast rules about what homes have to be in, which is both a danger and a benefit. Since so much is up in the air, I want to hedge my bets so that I can present a clean, warm and sanitary home if the worst were to happen, and try to keep the house looking as "normal" as possible.
Anyway - I want to once again thank you all so much... you really have no NO NO idea how helpful you have all been. The variety of opinions and especially those of you who aren't pussyfooting around... it's been immensely helpful. I'll keep you all posted.
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Scott Strough wrote:I am thinking you married him, had kids with him. You need to stick with him. You have your dreams, he has his dreams. Make them the same. Build a studio at the homestead. Better yet make him build a studio at the homestead. While he is at it, he can finish the plumbing.
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