You're doing great in being there for her, in holding her in her sleep, and helping her process it however she needs to. It'll probably take time for her fears to subside, for the nightmares to go away, for her to enjoy things that remind her of her grandpa. She's going to need a lot of reassurance that you and Dad are there for her and she's safe. I think you're doing a great job of helping her through her grief so she can come out the other side having processed it and healed, while being supported by her loving, listening Mama. ♥
William Grotts wrote:
To get 'over' a death (it never is over, it will come back again and again - unexpectedly) but leveled back out to where you have your 7 year old approaching what 'normal
was, will (likely) require a long term commitment to listening to her stories about her grandpa. To get there, you might want to figure out a commemorative project that "you" are going to do - and just need a bit of help in accomplishing - or planning, or "I had these ideas, which one would be better?" to get the stories started. Until she can tell HER stories of her grandpa, then it won't be 'over'.