Women don't want to hear a man's opinion... They just want to hear their own opinion in a deeper voice.
100% of human history and 90% of human psychology: Most people NEED to
hear their own opinion from all other people and are frustrated that
they don't have the might to make it "right."
I absolutely agree with that statement. I'd even add to it: "...and are frustrated that they don't have the might to make it 'right', so instead they transform the problems unique to their brain into everybody else's problems.."
This is pretty much the root-cause analysis of social dysfunction.
paul wheaton wrote:Over the last week or two, it seems that this has come up about a dozen times a day--People NEED me to think the thoughts they tell me to think.
John Weiland wrote:Out of curiosity, does it seem worse than during workshops in the past?
Peter Oakland wrote:For what it's worth, I've noticed a serious uptick in pushy behavior as well. I see it at work, while driving, almost everywhere...
you are not listening
I need you to do what i am telling you to do. Don't think about it, just do it.
I promise to FLEEP for seasons 2 through 10 of firefly.
Most people NEED to hear their own opinion from all other people and are frustrated that they don't have the might to make it "right."
paul wheaton wrote:Over the last week or two, it seems that this has come up about a dozen times a day.
People NEED me to think the thoughts they tell me to think. The need is so strong, that there is zero respect for my history, my efforts, my contributions, my philosophies ... none of it matters. These people just need my utter obedience without any annoying discussion.
Further, it doesn't matter that we are talking about permaculture and that they are the student and i am the teacher. Nor does it matter that I have a hundred times more experience in the field.
And when I don't obey, they go through extreme frustration that they cannot use might to make it "right." They get extremely angry and express their frustration to anyone else who will listen. Their message is "paul will not listen" when the more accurate message would be "paul will not obey."
paul wheaton wrote:
So the healthy path is to be prepared that people will resist our wacky stuff. And, at the same time, we will resist their wacky stuff.
Britton Sprouse wrote:
The more voluntarily one does another's bidding, the more power that other has. The more resistance one puts up to another, the less power that other has. A complete loss of power feels akin to death.