27, female. Longing for simplicity. Can I join you on your homestead?

Hi,

I've helped on farms before (wwoofing, various farm communities) and I've been really missing it.  Missing it the point that I'm realizing I just want... it to be my whole life...  and for it to never end.  To have roots somewhere, close to nature, with someone I'm useful to. With someone I can respect. And follow.  And just live a very simple old fashioned kind of existence... that would be heaven for me

I miss following the rhythm of nature, feeling connected to something greater, outside of myself, being of use, receiving guidance, having a purpose to my days. I miss how meaningful everything felt.  I miss having someone to try for.  And getting to fall asleep exhausted but happy.  I miss the centering, and peace, and grounding I found in this lifestyle...  I just want to go back so much.

I'm really sensitive and honestly.. this big bustling modern world overwhelms me enormously.  I just want simplicity.  To be safe somewhere, living with meaning, with a man I trust.

I have good work ethic, and lots of experience in the kitchen and garden, and some with animals.  I take direction well... I don't really like being the one in charge though, and feel rather anxious when I'm not sure what to do or what is expected of me.. maybe i'd calm down eventually though haha.

what else?... I would love to stay somewhere very long-term.  Maybe even forever if we get on well. The only hobby I care much about is playing the piano sometimes, so if you wouldn't have an issue with that, I'd be pretty content. I could relocate anywhere, although I'm in Canada, and love it here.  

Oh, and I'm sorry... I would find it hard being with a vegetarian to be honest.. I hope whoever I end up with would like eating meat as well..  I love animals, and have so much respect for them, and am so thankful for the energy and sustenance they provide...

I'm very very simple at heart.  So if you're into simple, great... but otherwise I may completely bore you!  I'm naturally very quiet! I mean, I'm super friendly and polite, but....... we could just be silent for ages and I'd love it haha... and talking makes me kinda tired... after.. well.... not very long at all haha... so... maybe you wouldn't like me if you prefer someone super extroverted.. ?

And... I'm kind of weird and I don't really even watch TV........I kind of live in a bubble..... I'd honestly be happy without electricity... and I don't really pay much attention to stuff going on in the world at large. It's just that I have adhd issues and... just... focus on whatever is going on right in front of me the best? if that makes sense... But, I thought i should add that, since my ignorance may be offensive to some, and may mean I am not exactly your cup of tea. and that is okay!

Oh, I guess I could also add that I love consistency and rules and having a set routine to follow every day. Hopefully you wouldn't find this boring.  I guess it's comforting to me..

As far as physical details, I'm 5'2, 108 pounds, long brown hair, green eyes, fair skin.  People seem to think I'm cute enough.  I feel weird about putting a picture on here, but I'd gladly send you one privately.

Anyway, if you got through all of this, thanks for your time, and feel free to message me if you might be interested.  I'd love to hear from you

Hey!
Reading your post was a strange experience, your character description was something that I could have written...
Would really like to get to know you!

Hi, thanks for your kind words! It's funny that you could relate to me so much, I don't get that a lot haha sure, I'd be happy to talk more. for some reason it says your account is retired?

taking a step like this takes a lot of courage and it is a very admirable quality, would like to have someone just to talk about permaculture with!

Thanks Aaron! I never thought of it that way, hmm well I guess I just find this kind of life so meaningful that it's worth pursuing and doing something completely random like this for haha.  I'd love to talk about permaculture with someone too

You sound like a perfect fit for my life... I am about 10 years older however I take good care of my self. I would be interested in getting to know each other,a bit more, if you have not met your soul mate yet.

Please send me your contacts.Maybe a phone no.
You seemed the perfect person I am looking to work with.Retired and now wanting to buy a farm in Good ole Texas.Used to live in Dallas.

I'm 34 in SW Washington you're more than welcome to join me if you're still looking

Hey Mary,

Your profile offers a lot that I desire...
namely a partner/ helper/ friend to share a simple life with.

My farm is in the southern Appalachian Mountains in NW Georgia.
Red clay, plenty of water, and hot enough summers to enjoy the fireplace in winter.

You sound like a wonderful asset for someone.

Hope you find what you're looking for.

If you'd like to know more, my address is below.

Best wishes.
Sincerely,
Coleman

NatureRich@protonmail.ch

Hello Mary,

If you'd be interested in a homestead on the Oregon Coast feel free to write me at: tbro@whitewolfmedia.net. I need a quiet, contented, tranquil homesteading partner to help care for gardens, greenhouses, goats, chickens, ducks, turkeys, rabbits, etc. The farm is rural and quiet, lots of privacy located on a dead end road so no traffic. Simplicity is the Way here. I have a nice small gypsy wagon here that's not being used you can set yourself up in that. I'm very structured and goal orientated and I can definitely use the help. It's just me and my sister here. She has her own tiny house, and I have a separate residence. It's only five acres but more than enough room. We are also very quiet folk and don't venture to town much or have many visitors. The climate here is mild, temperate growing zone (year round with greenhouses) as long as you don't mind rainy winters. It's Oregon... anyway, I don't check in here all that often so if you are interested please email. Thanks...  Timothy

Hi Mary,

I am also looking for a few folks to join me on my farm.  It's 159 beautiful acres and in the Ozarks of MO.  I also am into permaculture and base my decisions on the ethics and principles.  This farm needs the next generation of food producers to come get started now.  Plenty of opportunities here for other farm businesses, too.  If you want to hear more, I'd be glad to talk or email.

Lisa

Mary you sound perfect, which makes me think Im dreaming, could a perfect woman exist? Im too old, 39, but Im not exactly looking for a romantic partner, not that I would mind romance, but Im content the way things are. A lyfe partner is more what Im looking for, meaning someone who lives in the same home and do everyday lyfe with eachother in a low key, low stress, natural, seasonal kinda lyfe, to settle down and develop a rich friendship romantic or not. Im not a hippy but I look like one shoulder length dreads and beard, kinda live like one I love to forage, I have guns but theyre nothing more than a tool to me, not a city boy at all, Im eclectic, I drive a classic Cadillac or an old Ford farm truck, I work in a cemetery... Theres 27 acres here in the far pacific northwest, 2 pigs right now, 29 turkeys, a dozen chickens, 2 wild sheep, lots of wild forage, and room to grow. Ive been looking at building a sod/haybale house all off grid and very basic, the kind with a 5 gallon bucket toilet. Im as simple as they come, I work as much as I have to to earn money and spend the rest of my time living lyfe. With the ocean and Mt Baker both in my backyard theres a lot of outdoor living to do, lots of stunning sunrises over Baker and sunsets over the san juans to watch. Thats a lot of writing for me, tyme to get online with my lyfe instead of offline here. If yould be interested in an interesting lyfe instead of normal life give me a jingle. Many blessings Mary,
Dave

Thank you so much to everyone who wrote to me! You all sound so great!  I've connected with a really fun family in Ohio, and I'm going to be visiting their lovely farm community in August.  I'm so sorry if you've written to me and I haven't replied it; I've been really overwhelmed, but I will try to answer everyone in a private message!

https://permies.com/t/90757/Homestead-Partner
You seem to have a plan now, but if it doesn't pan out, maybe we should stay in touch...?

thanks for your message! I realized through this process that a community environment is what I'm longing for the most, and I guess it's just a matter of finding the right fit.. The place I'm going to is called the Stone Garden Farm in Richfield Ohio, and I'm going to visit for two weeks to see how it goes. Of course all of this is a bit complicated since I'm Canadian!  But your community and vision sounds so fun and exciting too!

Hey Mary! You sound amazing! I don't have my own place yet. I'm currently an ant at Wheaton Labs learning natural building. I'm 30. I do plan to buy some land and start a debt free permaculture homestead in the next couple of years though. Not sure where I'll end up though. I have romantic notions of starting a family and living off the land.

Anyways, hopefully we could get to know each other better!

Mary Lamond wrote:Hi,

I've helped on farms before (wwoofing, various farm communities) and I've been really missing it.  Missing it the point that I'm realizing I just want... it to be my whole life...  and for it to never end.  To have roots somewhere, close to nature, with someone I'm useful to. With someone I can respect. And follow.  And just live a very simple old fashioned kind of existence... that would be heaven for me

I miss following the rhythm of nature, feeling connected to something greater, outside of myself, being of use, receiving guidance, having a purpose to my days. I miss how meaningful everything felt.  I miss having someone to try for.  And getting to fall asleep exhausted but happy.  I miss the centering, and peace, and grounding I found in this lifestyle...  I just want to go back so much.

I'm really sensitive and honestly.. this big bustling modern world overwhelms me enormously.  I just want simplicity.  To be safe somewhere, living with meaning, with a man I trust.

I have good work ethic, and lots of experience in the kitchen and garden, and some with animals.  I take direction well... I don't really like being the one in charge though, and feel rather anxious when I'm not sure what to do or what is expected of me.. maybe i'd calm down eventually though haha.

what else?... I would love to stay somewhere very long-term.  Maybe even forever if we get on well. The only hobby I care much about is playing the piano sometimes, so if you wouldn't have an issue with that, I'd be pretty content. I could relocate anywhere, although I'm in Canada, and love it here.  

Oh, and I'm sorry... I would find it hard being with a vegetarian to be honest.. I hope whoever I end up with would like eating meat as well..  I love animals, and have so much respect for them, and am so thankful for the energy and sustenance they provide...

I'm very very simple at heart.  So if you're into simple, great... but otherwise I may completely bore you!  I'm naturally very quiet! I mean, I'm super friendly and polite, but....... we could just be silent for ages and I'd love it haha... and talking makes me kinda tired... after.. well.... not very long at all haha... so... maybe you wouldn't like me if you prefer someone super extroverted.. ?

And... I'm kind of weird and I don't really even watch TV........I kind of live in a bubble..... I'd honestly be happy without electricity... and I don't really pay much attention to stuff going on in the world at large. It's just that I have adhd issues and... just... focus on whatever is going on right in front of me the best? if that makes sense... But, I thought i should add that, since my ignorance may be offensive to some, and may mean I am not exactly your cup of tea. and that is okay!

Oh, I guess I could also add that I love consistency and rules and having a set routine to follow every day. Hopefully you wouldn't find this boring.  I guess it's comforting to me..

As far as physical details, I'm 5'2, 108 pounds, long brown hair, green eyes, fair skin.  People seem to think I'm cute enough.  I feel weird about putting a picture on here, but I'd gladly send you one privately.

Anyway, if you got through all of this, thanks for your time, and feel free to message me if you might be interested.  I'd love to hear from you

sounds like someone I would be aiming to team up with for sure just wish i was 20 years younger! Oh and had a homestead already!

Mary Lamond wrote:thanks for your message! I realized through this process that a community environment is what I'm longing for the most, and I guess it's just a matter of finding the right fit.. The place I'm going to is called the Stone Garden Farm in Richfield Ohio, and I'm going to visit for two weeks to see how it goes. Of course all of this is a bit complicated since I'm Canadian!  But your community and vision sounds so fun and exciting too!

You sound so much like me, I feel like we would be great friends. I've been looking for something like this for my family in the north Texas area.

Mel Jones wrote:

Mary Lamond wrote:thanks for your message! I realized through this process that a community environment is what I'm longing for the most, and I guess it's just a matter of finding the right fit.. The place I'm going to is called the Stone Garden Farm in Richfield Ohio, and I'm going to visit for two weeks to see how it goes. Of course all of this is a bit complicated since I'm Canadian!  But your community and vision sounds so fun and exciting too!

You sound so much like me, I feel like we would be great friends. I've been looking for something like this for my family in the north Texas area.

Hi Mel! Thanks for your sweet words! I hope you and your family find what you're looking for, it's so nice you relate!  I found this website great too for searching for communities: https://www.ic.org/directory/ I'm still traveling and attempting to figure out where in this world I fit! All the best to you

Hi,
I'm Brian.
You got my attention with, although I'm in Canada... and lots more about you.
I live in Alberta.
Maybe we can be friends?
Hope your day is good.

*Takes a deep breath*
Dearest Mary,
Your words pull on my heartstrings, yet my heart breaks knowing that you are out there in the world wandering, as if lost. Wandering in search of a home and love. And it breaks because you do not know of my existence. If you should come across a man who will feed you when you are hungry, chase the raindrops to quench your thirst, clothe you with the finest linens from Goodwill if you are naked, shelter you from the storm, and protect you from all evil and harm, then you have found me. When you are sick, I will tend to you. When you are sad, I will make you laugh. If you are happy, I will laugh with you. If you are cold, I will build you a fire. If you are hot, I will fan you.

I will wait for you Mary. I will wait for your return. And while you are gone I will build you a house and a garden. And I will whittle you a chair fit for a queen. And when you sit upon your thrown I will be nearby, working in silence, working for my queen, for she is in need. For without you in my life there is no meaning. No meaning to my meaningless life at which I toil, under the sun. You would bring that meaning to my life Mary. A reason to get up before the sunrise. A reason to see that sunrise with new meaning. To see it’s beauty and think of only you.

There is work to be done. There is much work to be done. Mary needs me and I need Mary. For when she comes home, and if she is still lost, then she will know that there is a warm and dry home waiting for her. A home full of love, a home of love, a home built just for her. A home where music fills the air from her gentle finger tips floating across the ivories. We will sing and we will dance. On the porch we listen to the raindrops upon the roof and rejoice. Then watch the sun go down on another day, together again. No, nothing else matters, we’re together again.

I have nothing, yet I have everything. I braced myself like a man and I answered His questions. I was spared the jaws of death and destruction and was given two-fold, yes seven-fold, what I had before because of my patience and obedience. A simple life I can offer, for I have no more than that to give, nor do I want any more than that. I live within my means and owe no one anything. I own what I have because I worked hard for it. And I will share what I have with you Mary. It is there waiting for you. Play for me, sing for me while I work so there is gladness in my heart and meaning to my days.

You have talents that I lack. I have talents that you lack. What we don’t know we will learn together. And together we can do all things and together we will build a life. A simple life, by choice. The simple is already in place. All I need now is you. My eyes will look upon you only for there is no one that can compete. My choice is made. And I choose you, sight unseen. For your words pulled on my heartstrings Mary.

Meaningless! Meaningless! Says the teacher. Utterly Meaningless! Everything is meaningless! What does a man gain from all his labor at which he toils under the sun?
Forever and always,
William

William,
As a small word of advice, …
As a sorta general rule, …
It's always good to meet a person before promising them everything.

Jim Fry wrote:William,
As a small word of advice, …
As a sorta general rule, …
It's always good to meet a person before promising them everything.

...If we don't, we're gonna blow a fifty amp fuse.
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes
You just might find
You get what you need
Oh baby!
The Rolling Stones

Mary,definitely looking for a woman to homestead with and long term too. Just putting my hat in the ring here lol

Mary Lamond wrote:thanks for your message! I realized through this process that a community environment is what I'm longing for the most, and I guess it's just a matter of finding the right fit.. The place I'm going to is called the Stone Garden Farm in Richfield Ohio, and I'm going to visit for two weeks to see how it goes. Of course all of this is a bit complicated since I'm Canadian!  But your community and vision sounds so fun and exciting too!

Our little homestead is about 15-20 minutes from Stone Garden Farm!  Would love to hear about your experiences there!  Feel free to PM me if interested in sharing.  

Woah.

Well hope it works out, Mary.

I clicked this post 'cause we're interested in finding kindred spirits to live up on our mountain top with us. Down-to-earth nature-lovin' folks who don't mind being a bit lost in the woods.   And of course that's a strictly platonic search for us.  lol.  Glad you found a family to hang with!  If you're looking for anywhere else to scope out you can send me a PM :)  We're in Western Montana.  Tis a quiet, peaceful, safe place here!

- Jen

Hello Mary, My name is Cass. Im a 27yo male who lives in Saskatchewan. Not sure if its too late to get your attention but it seems like we are both looking for similar things. If at all interested we should chat sometime. Peace.

Rob Kaiser wrote:

Mary Lamond wrote:thanks for your message! I realized through this process that a community environment is what I'm longing for the most, and I guess it's just a matter of finding the right fit.. The place I'm going to is called the Stone Garden Farm in Richfield Ohio, and I'm going to visit for two weeks to see how it goes. Of course all of this is a bit complicated since I'm Canadian!  But your community and vision sounds so fun and exciting too!

Our little homestead is about 15-20 minutes from Stone Garden Farm!  Would love to hear about your experiences there!  Feel free to PM me if interested in sharing.  

I think I met Rob at Darby Simpson's farm 4 years ago.  Great guy.

Timothy Markus wrote:

Rob Kaiser wrote:

Mary Lamond wrote:thanks for your message! I realized through this process that a community environment is what I'm longing for the most, and I guess it's just a matter of finding the right fit.. The place I'm going to is called the Stone Garden Farm in Richfield Ohio, and I'm going to visit for two weeks to see how it goes. Of course all of this is a bit complicated since I'm Canadian!  But your community and vision sounds so fun and exciting too!

Our little homestead is about 15-20 minutes from Stone Garden Farm!  Would love to hear about your experiences there!  Feel free to PM me if interested in sharing.  

I think I met Rob at Darby Simpson's farm 4 years ago.  Great guy.

Wow!  Small world, Timothy!  How goes it?

Hello I'm Robert are you still looking for a partner if so would a 50 year old widower that lives in the mountains outside of Leslie Arkansas totally off-grid be to old for you?

Hi

Not sure if your still out there looking to join someone on their homestead or if you found a place yet.  I think you and I would align on a lot of things based on your original post. I have a small homestead in Wisconsin near Green Bay and am looking for a female friend and life partner to join me.  Send me a message back if you are interested and I can tell you more about me, my property and my goals😀

Matt Manders

manders906@gmail.com

Mary, LMAO here. I was going to say you might be a good fit for my place, but I'm sure from the number of men who answered your post you'll have found something... or someone by the time my house sells. I really am enjoying the people on this site!

Angelina
Dancing Goats Farm

Hello Mary, your post is three years old. Have you found what you seek? Your profile resonates with me. Hope to hear from you. Nate

My place sounds like a perfect fit for you.
6 acres in hawaii, I live off rainwater and solar, enough that there's really no need to conserve much. It's daunting to do everything by myself,  the lonlieness is the killer.

It's remote but not too remote. I have bananas,  coconuts, pineaples and more. Started an orchard but am clearing more land for more farming. It's a relief to know if the world collapses I'd be okay on my own.

I searched the internet for something like this having no idea this was a thing.

Ive gone through a pretty brutal spiritual awakening the past few years that I wonder if im too damaged for companionship.

What you wrote moved me only because what you write you'd find here at my place.

I'm 41, I'm currently living in a 45 foot camp trailer I brought over, I have a 20 foot container that I'm trying to build into a little home. I'm also in the middle of getting. Building permit for a bamboo home, small but perfect. 560 sf living, 260 sf porch. 9cean and mountain view.

No cell phone coverage at my place but is available 5 min drive, I have satellite Wi-Fi.

Anyways, not sure why I wrote this except what you wrote in all honesty is what I'd find to be a perfect fit.

Dustin

You basically just described everything that I’ve been looking for in a potential partner. I would absolutely love to chat with you and see if our personalities mesh. Hope to hear from you!

Hello! Mary! I love your attitude! I know it’s been a while since your post! But still checking if you found a partner! I live in Saskatchewan! Anyone out here looking for homestead or camper life style!anyone can reach me at ! gillesdlaviolette@gmail.com   Take care!

I'm I'm Apsu, It's a pleasure. Simplicity, nature and the spiritual studies of life. Not sure how to message for I'm new here but let's figure this out.  

Hello,
I am very interested in you. I have a beautiful farm here in eastern South Dakota where you can do all the things you love. I'm sure I could even dust off the piano for you. Message me at sdwarners@hotmail.com