It's amazing how important that is, and how many homes I see where people have spent piles of money on landscaping, assuming they'll never be on crutches or in a wheelchair. We're *all* one car accident away from needing an easy and safe way into our houses!
John F Dean wrote: We had already taken positive steps to make the property more accessible.
It's hard when you have to make decisions that balance finances and needs. So much depends on the house design you're working with, and the personality and choices of the occupants, as to how to make the tougher choices. A friend of the family had a wasting illness and they stayed in their bungalow as long as possible, but finally opted to move to a condo and I think the big push was to avoid slippery doorsteps and snow! The house had been bought when they had 4 teens/preteens at home, so as much as they loved it, it was time to move on.
Prioritizing is always an issue. So, I need to invest now in appropriate changes that were already on my short list ....the walk in tub, chair lift to the basement, ramps and sidewalks.
Funny how it never gets mentioned who looks after the youngest daughter when she's old??? As a "youngest daughter", that one always worried me a little!
John F Dean wrote:I bumped into a relatively isolated small German community a few years back. An older person I spoke to still stuck with the view that the oldest son inherited the land. The youngest daughter remained unmarried and stayed home to look after the parents.
I hear you. I friend of mine's sister was the only one of 4 kids who had any interest/ability to do serious farming, and the Dad refused to give her the land. My friend moved back to the area to help her parents to the extent she could as she has a disability herself. We're not sure how the whole business is going to play out in the end, but we expect the farm will be sold and the 2 boys will likely get the majority of the money. "Tradition" can be a good thing, or sometimes, a not so good thing!
John F Dean wrote:To directly respond to your observation, while I do understand the practical side of the dynamics, everyone was pretty well screwed except the oldest son. It could be said that even he could end up on the wrong side of things.
Jennie Little wrote:Does anyone use birdie beds? Like these:
We have made our own in the past and they're rotting, which is fine. And replacing them, now is okay. But in another 10 years, I think these things will be true: I will need higher beds than we have now and won't be able to move/deal with all the dirt, lift the wood, etc. that's required to replace the beds the way we had before.
So, we were thinking about buying ONE birdie bed to see how we like it. They are expensive. The one I linked to is I think more than the one we were looking at. We also considered a stock tank, but have no way to retrieve same if we bought it. (No truck or van.)
Thekla McDaniels wrote:Faye,
Your healing salve sounds miraculous! Do you grow your own herbs? Do you think it would heal plantar fasciitis through unbroken skin?
(Plantar fasciitis is micro tears in the fascia from sole of foot up around heel, and into Achilles’ tendon.)