Azita Williams wrote:
... in 7 yrs his loans will be forgiven and he definitely wants to take advantage of that. Of course he can get another public sector job if we move.
The compromise we talk about is if we own acreage in the right zoning, he'd like to build a few tiny homes to airbnb and an event center and maybe a tree-house. But he definitely wants to work in his field.
I think it all can work out with right planning and patience.
Terri Matthews wrote:I ALWAYS wanted to farm!
My husband is a city boy and wanted to STAY a city boy, and so he got a job in a SMALL city as that way we could live on a small parcel of land and commute. We bought a house on an acre of land that was close enough to his city job and then later we bought 5 acres outside of town.
Because he DID get a job in a small city, my husband simply followed a highway from his job to outside of town to what he thought was a reasonable commute, and that was where we bought the house on an acre of land.
Every morning he followed that highway to work, and I also took the highway to the job I got in a hospital.
So, you want to farm. Fine. That means that you will want to sell what you grow. Or, you can do child care and farm in your free time: child care providers can bring in a decent wage and then you can work your land in the evenings or on weekends. Because you have school debts you might still need your income for a while
So, if you want to sell what you grow you might get a job in a store for the practice in selling, or you can raise plants in your back yard and sell at a farmer's market on Saturdays, or whatever. At any rate it is almost spring: you might raise a fine garden in your yard for experience.
A farm is a business but a homestead is not. I am not certain: are you wanting to farm or to homestead?
Emilie McVey wrote:Hi Azita, and welcome! I, too, have the fantasy, as well as a husband who doesn't "want to be a farmer!!".
I've had this dream for ten years, and only now, at 59, am beginning to take steps toward it. I long for open spaces and the peace that comes with it, and for lots of stars at night. But land is expensive, and savings have gone to college educations for our kids. So my dream of acreage has morphed to a large (very large, if possible) sunny backyard and under-the-radar chickens/ducks.
The tips from more seasoned permies are great! Some of them I can vouch for (eg, even 1/8 acre garden produces a lot of food). Others I am taking note of, myself, for my backyard farming endeavor.
Good luck to you, and keep us posted!
Neil Moffett wrote:Your husband is absolutely right. It is a ton of work, and he will end up doing a lot of it because unless you spend a bunch of money anything you want to do requires sheer physical power, of which he likely has more than you. If he doesn't want to do it then you will not succeed.
Azita Williams wrote:
I brought up the desire of wanting to live on a farm, growing our own food and maybe running a CSA and quitting my job. I also would love to home-school our child. My husband tells me that I just have a fantasy and that running farm is a lot of work and he does not want to do it. But I don't think it's a fantasy, i believe it's my calling in life! My husband suggested building a small green house in our backyard for me to grow things to get it out of my system basically, but I plan on signing up with a local Wwoof host to start learning how to run a farm on my days off.
I have been looking at farms for sale all across the US for the last few months and if we sold everything, we could buy a farm for cash in a less expensive part of the country. Then if we get solar panels installed and if the farm is on well water and septic tank, we could potentially become self sufficient and not stressed out about big living expenses as we get started.
Anyone else on here in the same predicament? spouse not on board? thinking it's a fantasy? Maybe grandparents and father mourning the farm life has made me subconsciously fantasize it? I'm trying to figure it all out!
Sarah Milcetic wrote:I'm sorry I don't have time to read all the replies right this moment (outside is calling us to come back quickly) but this post really spoke to me when I saw it on the daily-ish! I didn't know that I dreamed of farming until we started down the path. My husband and I lived in NYC and grew herbs in a skylight and composted with worms in our 40 sq ft kitchen, then moved to an urban lot just outside the city when our oldest child was a toddler. We turned 50x100 foot lot with basically nothing but lawn to a nearly year-round food forest. We sold our house and bought an old RV and 8 acres. My husband didn't quit his job but started telecommuting and has reduced his hours as he has become more open to the farm and more involved each year. It has been hard but I wouldn't go back for anything! I'd be happy to talk to you if you'd like to.