Be you but respectful. By writing this you show you are respectful so I think that is covered well.
If it was me, I would simply ask her for her preference and the fact you are willing to alter your appearance illustrates your character well!
Have a great time celebrating your loved ones marriage! Regardless of some hair follicles or not they will embrace such as great personality. Expect the usual peanut gallery stuff but they don't matter so much and I am sure you have thick skin when it comes to those who view things differently than you.
Living free starts with understanding ones own emotions and emotion affects and controls us.
Cassie Langstraat wrote:But for the other one who seemed like she might care a tiny bit, I will likely shave for hers.
I definitely want to honor and lift them up on this extremely special day for both of them.
So, I’m wondering if you did end up shaving for the second wedding?
I was actually going to look for a post here on permies about thoughts/opinions/research on female body hair and if there wasn’t one, create one. (I’m hoping to write a detailed post on my much neglected blog someday soon.)
One of my best friends is getting married in a couple months and I will be waxing my underarms and my legs to my knees, and possibly wearing high heels (which will be the thing I dislike most out of the three.)
I hadn’t waxed or shaved my underarms for about a year and a half and while visiting with my friend, it didn’t bother her. I know however, she would feel it would be distasteful for her wedding and photos and I too want to love her and support her special day.
I still don’t feel that female underarm hair is beautiful or looks normal but I know that it’s because I’ve been brainwashed by my American culture and I want to overcome that. It does physically feel much more natural and normal for me to have body hair.