Dale Hodgins wrote: I really hope to find a long term solution, I expect that he will live in a small house on my farm eventually.
Dale Hodgins wrote:He becomes euphoric and extremely energetic but not violent.
Dale, please, please, please try very, very, very, hard to replace in your brain the word I bolded with the word "sick". Reading over both your posts, I'm wondering if your mother-in-law doesn't also have some diagnosable mental illness which constant talking and moving and not sleeping well are a mixture of symptoms and her attempts to cope with the illness on her own without help.
He gets so lazy that he will avoid bathing for days at a time.
Jay Angler wrote: I really believe that the first step in helping people who are struggling with brain chemistry or wiring that is hindering their lives, is by helping all the people who might read through these posts to stand back and look at themselves and their loved ones through a different lens.
I know a young woman right here in Victoria who isn't getting the mental help that she needs, because her mother is dead set against it. She's not willing to concede that there could possibly be something wrong with her daughter. This woman has pretty much ruined her medical career by latching onto every faddish thing she has seen on the internet. It's more important to her that patients avoid medication, than they get better.
She's become almost anti everything and when someone exhibits bizarre behaviour, it gets blamed on foods or treated as a personal failing, requiring counselling, to correct the behaviour. She refuses to see any behavior, no matter how bizarre as symptomatic of a mental illness. Shaming, denial and blaming her ex-husband, who is pushing for a psychiatric assessment.
Trace Oswald wrote: I feel like a complete whiner because I can't just get my shit together, suck it up, and get on with things, and you have the recipe for mental chaos. And now I feel like a whiner again. Ugh.
John Weiland wrote: ...
Not challenging the 'organic' origins of some aspects of some mental health conditions, it just seems to me that a good portion of mental health problems stem from "square-peg-in-round hole" experiences and environments. There is both a developmental aspect of the ramifications of the sense of "not belonging/understood" as well as later feeling, as an adult, of continued estrangement from family, community, and/or the culture at large. And of course there can be intersection between what we are gifted in our genes and how these interact with our experiences....
I can totally see the police point of view. I believe the last time I heard the statistic quoted, there were 4, only 4, dedicated publicly funded beds for potentially dangerous seniors for all of the Nursing Homes in the Province of Ontario. There are articles about seniors killing other seniors in nursing homes and what can be done about the "problem", but there are also *very* strict rules in Canada about drugging seniors "just to calm them down". (I suspect the rules are *much* laxer in many places.) If Auntie's gone a little paranoid, the last thing anyone would want would be to surround her with strangers or helpless seniors! Of course, slightly paranoid people are going to be *very* suspicious of any drug offered as well. I don't know if we've got any herbal people who could suggest a tea that might take the edge off, or if she'd even consider drinking such a thing, if she won't even talk to you.
She obviously needs help. But our only option is to have her declared mentally incompetent and institutionalized, which I don't believe is the right thing to do. First, it would entirely destroy the life she knows, and she'd probably be sedated and/or restrained since she's kind of violent.