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haters gotta hate and rapers gotta rape

 
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I think that random acts of kindness are very, very important in creating a culture of generosity and a "helping instead of hating" mentality. But there will always be those who take your free plant and then complain that you didn't give them control of your whole garden, and then go on facebook and tell all of your friends and neighbors that you're a lousy person. IMO, the lesson here is that part of being nice is standing with other people who are nice by telling the jerkoffs to cut it out. This makes it clear that at least in our corner of the world, they will have to either stop being a jerkoff, or leave. If you saw a known pedophile at the playground, would you pass him with a friendly smile, or stand watch where the kids were playing until he moved on to better hunting grounds? You can't stop him from being a pedophile but you can make it clear that your neighborhood isn't easy pickins. I think we've forgotten as a culture that we have that power (and responsibility!) to control societal norms.
 
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I think it's worth noting that in my neck of the woods (South America), crimes are not simply reported to the police and left there. If you are a pedophile, you get reported--and then the victims' mothers tell all of their friends and family, then some people go to their house and spraypaint "PEDOPHILE" on their gate. It seems kind of ghetto, but it's actually a fairly foolproof system--if there is only one person raising accusations, and everyone else says, "hey, but I know that guy and I have constant close personal contact with him proving that these accusations aren't true", then it is accepted that the single accuser has some sort of motive for lying/exaggerating/twisting reality. But if witnesses and experiences keep popping up, then the community as a whole looks at the proof and rejects that individual as a prospective family friend. The perp can still do business and exist in the neighborhood, but everybody knows to keep their kids away from him. He now knows that if one more incident comes to light, it won't be gate-painting next time, it'll probably be his house getting burned down. We have this power but we've just forgotten it. I think the call for more communal responsibility is a good one. Me defending myself isn't nearly as powerful as my (small) group of friends telling someone, "hey, we know her. She's not like that. Shut up or go away."

Please forgive my excess verbosity here. I'm done now :-D
 
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Interestingly, the formal etymology of "haters gonna hate" identifies it as a positive statement originating in early-90s rap lyrics -- the rap equivalent of "there's always a critic" or "you'll never please everyone".

Etymology of Haters

Haters gonna hate is an informal way to express consolation, voice encouragement, or dismiss criticism. The phrase implies that criticism says more about the critic, or “hater,” than the person being criticized, i.e., that they are making judgements out of jealousy or their own negativity.
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in Ice-T’s 1999 song “Don’t Hate the Player,” the rapper describes haters as “Actin’ like a brother done did somethin’ wrong / cause he got his game tight.” As these lyrics suggest, haters are fueled by jealousy and so their criticisms can be brushed off.
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Although haters gonna hate began in hip-hop, its use has become widespread in mainstream culture. What began as a specific dismissal of criticism morphed into a positive affirmation and an exhortation to do things your own way, to be yourself in spite of what other people may say.

 
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