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What are some things you find attractive/cute/sexy/etc. that others likely don't?

 
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Trace Oswald wrote:My quirks are for girls with scars on their faces or big noses. No idea why. Maybe small "imperfections" make people look more real to me?



I totally get that ..I’ve likened it to going into a , current days, neighborhood , where all the houses look the same ..so much make up and striving for this idea of beauty , that everyone looks the same ..one of the most beautiful woman , I’ve seen , lived in Boulder Colorado .she had a scar from being born with a cleft pallet ..I thought it added to her beauty
 
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Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:
Ha, and I have bulging veins in my forearms , too..f I wasn’t a Christian , I would be a pagan ..nature is my church..it’s the perfect artful expression of the Creator ..



OMgoddess that is too funny! and..........I tell people all the time, "nature is my church"



Yea , it’s a bit of a reoccurring theme ..an attraction to woman , with a bent towards paganism , cause I totally get the overwhelming appreciation of nature ..I’m just so into my belief in the artist of it all , …I’m a hard stretch , for most
 
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Ben Child wrote:

Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:
Ha, and I have bulging veins in my forearms , too..f I wasn’t a Christian , I would be a pagan ..nature is my church..it’s the perfect artful expression of the Creator ..



OMgoddess that is too funny! and..........I tell people all the time, "nature is my church"



Yea , it’s a bit of a reoccurring theme ..an attraction to woman , with a bent towards paganism , cause I totally get the overwhelming appreciation of nature ..I’m just so into my belief in the artist of it all , …I’m a hard stretch , for most



I believe when the time is right you will find your person All you have to do is be ready for her.
 
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Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:

Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:
Ha, and I have bulging veins in my forearms , too..f I wasn’t a Christian , I would be a pagan ..nature is my church..it’s the perfect artful expression of the Creator ..



OMgoddess that is too funny! and..........I tell people all the time, "nature is my church"



Yea , it’s a bit of a reoccurring theme ..an attraction to woman , with a bent towards paganism , cause I totally get the overwhelming appreciation of nature ..I’m just so into my belief in the artist of it all , …I’m a hard stretch , for most



I believe when the time is right you will find your person All you have to do is be ready for her.



I’d like that .it would have to be the one in my minds eye ..I’ve dreamed of her and seen her, in a manner . She’s covered in constellations  and lives in the forest . She talks to animals and they talk back
 
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Ben Child wrote:

Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:

Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:
Ha, and I have bulging veins in my forearms , too..f I wasn’t a Christian , I would be a pagan ..nature is my church..it’s the perfect artful expression of the Creator ..



OMgoddess that is too funny! and..........I tell people all the time, "nature is my church"



Yea , it’s a bit of a reoccurring theme ..an attraction to woman , with a bent towards paganism , cause I totally get the overwhelming appreciation of nature ..I’m just so into my belief in the artist of it all , …I’m a hard stretch , for most



I believe when the time is right you will find your person All you have to do is be ready for her.



I’d like that .it would have to be the one in my minds eye ..I’ve dreamed of her and seen her, in a manner . She’s covered in constellations  and lives in the forest . She talks to animals and they talk back



That is beautiful. Have faith and you will find each other one day.
 
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Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:

Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:

Opal-Lia Palmer wrote:

Ben Child wrote:
Ha, and I have bulging veins in my forearms , too..f I wasn’t a Christian , I would be a pagan ..nature is my church..it’s the perfect artful expression of the Creator ..



OMgoddess that is too funny! and..........I tell people all the time, "nature is my church"



Yea , it’s a bit of a reoccurring theme ..an attraction to woman , with a bent towards paganism , cause I totally get the overwhelming appreciation of nature ..I’m just so into my belief in the artist of it all , …I’m a hard stretch , for most



I believe when the time is right you will find your person All you have to do is be ready for her.



I’d like that .it would have to be the one in my minds eye ..I’ve dreamed of her and seen her, in a manner . She’s covered in constellations  and lives in the forest . She talks to animals and they talk back



That is beautiful. Have faith and you will find each other one day.



I hope so ..I mean I’m pretty content now, but I do get lonely ..not so much that I’m gonna compromise ..I’ve done that in the past . No I figure if I’m that eanmoured with a freckled being , then that’s probably an indicator , that if there is this one , she probably is covered with them ..that’s what I tell myself , we shall see ..
 
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This morning at work I happened to look over at a rather petite young woman just as she was yawning. It was nothing special. She was just standing there and covered her mouth with her fist as she yawned. She was as cute as a yawning kitten.
 
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For me, physically attractive features tends to come second. But little mannerisms I've noticed in people I've dated seem to reflect aspects of their personality I like.

I'm in a happy and committed relationship with my current partner, and one thing I find attractive is that he's not afraid to pass gas in front of me. To me, it's a sign that he's emotionally secure in our relationship and understands that he shouldn't be ashamed of a normal bodily function. I've had a partner before who was terrified to toot when he was around me, and we ended up breaking up (not because of that particular thing, but because he was insecure and we were both in a bad spot mentally and I couldn't handle his depression anymore.)

Also, I love it when my partner is comfortable talking about big questions like marriage, or is willing to discuss and try to solve problems we have that may be uncomfortable to bring up.

The last thing is specifically for the guys I like: I find it incredibly sweet when a man isn't afraid to cry in front of me and isn't afraid to tell me he's sad. Just in general, I love it when men are able to express emotions with me without them feeling like I'm judging them.
 
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Greg Martin wrote:No idea why, but when women's ears poke out through their hair it can be a real turn on to me....go figure.  I don't really have a thing for ears otherwise.



I saw this yesterday and thought of this thread. The kicker is, she had one ear poking out on one side and not the other. I think the asymmetry added to the cuteness.
 
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Has a smile more than a frown.
Wears flannel shirts when it's cold and looks saucy while wearing them regardless of body type.
Like to plant/grow things.
Likes to quilt/sew.
Likes to cook & can.
Likes to fish.
Good sense of humor and can be witty.
Takes care of animals/is nurturing with animals.
Is a militant recycler/does not waste anything.
Is intelligent and fun to talk to.
Thrifty.
Does not gossip nor pay any attention to it.
Does not stick her nose in others business.
Is not loud, boastful, bossy, or arrogant; but friendly and respectful to all.
Values living simply in a place to call home.
Is not in competition with anybody.
Knows how to utilize: jumper cables, jack & lug wrench, pocket knife.  
Does not spend a lot of time paying attention to social media or pop culture.

I've seen a lot of Mennonite gals that I find saucy.
Greek & Italian gals are saucy too.
 
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GOOD HYGIENE☆☆☆☆☆
What attracts me are a Man's pheromones; if the smell isn't 'right', I can't go there.
The visual is clean-cut.
* Haircut so I can see your ears + neck
* If there must be facial hair, then trim + tidy
* Natural fragrances only - laundry soap, soap/shampoo, deodorant etc.
* Shower 1x/day, fresh clothes.
°•°•If we're intimate:
* Shower at end of day (if you bathe, shower off after)
* Clean sheets every week
* 'Manscaped'
* No pets in/on bed
 
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I like black coffee breath.

I like slightly-crooked teeth.

I like women who laugh loudly and obnoxiously.

I'm grateful, because I think the older I become, the more likely I'll have a chance to stumble into this woman...
 
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I come from a country background, so what I find attractive is rugged hands and a hard working spirit. My dad's hands were leathery, tough, oil and dirt stained with scars all over. I once dated a guy who was a carpenter and he had a pretty bad accident with a table saw that took off part of his finger tip and half the finger nail. I loved his hands even more because of that one finger.  I think I have always been very fascinated and respectful of people with scars like that because my Grandpa, who I loved dearly, had a three finger accident with a machine that took off different lengths of 3 fingers. I have always seen those kinds of amputations as a sign of how badass you really are.

Another thing I find really attractive is laugh lines by the eyes. Don't know exactly why, but I think it's sexy.  I also have a deep love for hairy men.
 
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I am a bit different anyway, so what I find attractive on a lady is different as well. I have just come to realize that I am attracted to Intelligece.

Naturally, this does NOT bode well for me in this day and age.

Since deducing someone's intellect takes answering questions that can take time; about the time I realize I find them very attractive for their intellect, they wrongly assume I am disinterested in them for a host of typical reasons that apply to most men, like their physical attributes, or what they may not do in bed. That is NOT me at all.

It also goes without saying, that this directly opposed to the hook-up culture of today that is prevalent in both genders. I am really looking for someone to have an intelligent conversation with, long before there is an intimacy attraction.

Interestingly, I would not say that I am NOT highly intelligent myself. I don't think I am dumb, but no matter how much I learn about a topic that interests me, there is always so much more to learn. A great example is homesteading, something I have done for 30 years and really became a GERT, but an "expert" in homesteading? Hardly. There are so many aspects of it that I did not engage in. I just feel the more I know about homesteading, I realize how much I really don't know, and that applies to all topics of interest for me.

But while this sounds disconnected from what the original poster intended, it really is not. I will try and be genteel in how I say this, but intelligence for me, can really be a turn-on. In short, going out to diner where I might have a great conversation about why people do what they do with applied phycology, and we are of like-mind, and it leads to relations in the bedroom, in afterglow it might again lead too great conversation. THAT to me is intensely gratifying. It is not because I got intimate, it is that intimacy allowed me to know them better, and from that stemmed more in-depth conversation. A lady that might fit into a size 2 dress, but cannot tell the Antarctic from the Arctic has no appeal to me, however.

 
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Oh, I have enjoyed reading the comments in this thread! It made me smile.

For me, it is:
-Sensing the soul in the eyes; not just intellect, but depth.
-Strong hands. And strangely, like some others have mentioned, the veins that traverse them and up the arms.
-Belly fur (chest hair)
-The raw, ruggedness of a man who is confident in his ability/strength - but not in an arrogant way.
-Laughter
 
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As some of you have mentioned, attraction can be less about outward appearances and more about inward characteristics.

Attraction for me comes when I see that:
A man that is more intelligent than I (that might have sounded arrogant, but it feels horrible to have the feeling of being more intelligent or educated than the guy. I want to be able to look up to him, respect him, learn from him.)
When a man knows when to be tender and gentle (around animals, kids, elderly, etc.)
When a man is handy and creative - especially when it gets "MacGyver-ish"!
When a man is observant towards needs around him. (i.e. opening the door for a person carrying a box, when someone is upset and needs a kind smile or joke...)
When a man is protective

In re-reading this list above, I realized that it perfectly describes my own Dad, and both grandfathers. Characteristics that I grew up admiring and respecting.  
 
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Things I find attractive in a man:

A deep, soothing voice.
Kindness.
Funny, makes me laugh.
Handy, maybe not with everything but a lot of things.
Confident but not boastful.
Strong, physically, mentally, emotionally.
Aware of his place here.
Family oriented.
Good boundaries.
A slight tan from being outside.
 
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Smell

I do love a strong back
And indigenous men

But when they get close

Alcohol, tobacco, and old rancid sweat are a great disappointment

Too much cologne just hurts my sinuses

But sharing an elevator with a working man just makes my day!

(They have elevators here in Iqaluit where I am overwintering with my son who saves lives, an almost forgotten experience, then the rest of the time I am usually alone in the Gatineau mountains but not lonely)
 
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