“Every human activity is an opportunity to bear fruit and is a continual invitation to exercise the human freedom to create abundance...” ― Andreas Widmer
Gardens in my mind never need water
Castles in the air never have a wet basement
Well made buildings are fractal -- equally intelligent design at every level of detail.
Bright sparks remind others that they too can dance
What I am looking for is looking for me too!
“Every human activity is an opportunity to bear fruit and is a continual invitation to exercise the human freedom to create abundance...” ― Andreas Widmer
I'm only 64! That's not to old to learn to be a permie, right?
(Reminder to myself) God didn't say, "well said, well planned, and well thought out." He said, "well done."
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"The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is." C.S. Lewis
"When the whole world is running towards a cliff, he who is running in the opposite direction appears to have lost his mind." C.S. Lewis
Matt McSpadden wrote:I guess, what I am trying to say is, that there are a lot of people who appreciate what people like you do. And for any spouses who have not appreciated what the stay-at-home spouse does (or goes through)... go tell them you appreciate it and find something they hate doing and do it for them.
Many who knew her, thought it a pity that so substantive and rare a creature should have been absorbed into the life of another, and be only known in a certain circle as a wife....But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs. --George Eliot, Middlemarch
“Every human activity is an opportunity to bear fruit and is a continual invitation to exercise the human freedom to create abundance...” ― Andreas Widmer
Rachel said, "I really wish I could be that person that loves the tasks of housekeeping--but if I can't love them, I will try to find harmony in being faithful to them and thereby loving my family.
Lucretia said, "Reminds of the "Fly Lady" site that is all about easy ways to deal with house cleaning.
Invasive plants are Earth's way of insisting we notice her medicines. Stephen Herrod Buhner
Everyone learns what works by learning what doesn't work. Stephen Herrod Buhner
Kena Landry wrote: But we found the balance that was right for us and we adjust and make it up as we go.
I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do. (E.E.Hale)
Phil Stevens wrote:I got to be a stay-at-home dad for nearly two years and that was a truly golden time. Flexibility is great if you can achieve it.
Anita Martin wrote: I don't want to be remembered as the person who always had an impeccable home.
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I always had the feeling that I was living on hold and some days my "real life" would start. Now I feel I am living the real life.
Abraham Palma wrote:
So really the problem with the maintenance stuff is that eventually it doesn't leave space for building stuff. It's like needing more room in your shelves for a shinny new book that you hate to have to leave in the ground. If you had had an empty shelve, then you could have put it in a proper place. But leaving some empty shelves requires that you do another kind of maintenance, which is 'making room' for new stuff before you need it.
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My projects on Skye: The tree field, Growing and landracing, perennial polycultures, "Don't dream it - be it! "
Win a free slice of Pie! - https://permies.com/t/251532/win-free-slice-pie-answering
"The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is." C.S. Lewis
"When the whole world is running towards a cliff, he who is running in the opposite direction appears to have lost his mind." C.S. Lewis
Kena Landry wrote:I also believe in the importance of listening to one's fantasies. Not to follow them blindly, but to use them as guides to see what is missing in one's life.
“Every human activity is an opportunity to bear fruit and is a continual invitation to exercise the human freedom to create abundance...” ― Andreas Widmer
Invasive plants are Earth's way of insisting we notice her medicines. Stephen Herrod Buhner
Everyone learns what works by learning what doesn't work. Stephen Herrod Buhner
Rachel Lindsay wrote:I do spend too much time wallowing in a bad attitude about it though. It is a choice I need to stop making. I saw above that "Flylady" mentioned, and she writes in her books that she looks at housekeeping tasks as "home blessing." That is much more cheerful than my take on it (eternal punishment in Tartarus.)
I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do. (E.E.Hale)
Matt McSpadden wrote:I think it is ok to prioritize things above other things, but I think it is important to be honest that we are doing it... and not just comment that we don't have the time... when often we could have the time if it was important enough to us.
A true home should be the container for reviving real hospitality, true culture and conviviality, real fun, solid comfort, and above all, real civilization. And the most creative thing that anybody can do in this world is to make a real home. Indeed, the homemaker is as important as the house, and being a “housewife” is the most creative, most important job on earth.
“Every human activity is an opportunity to bear fruit and is a continual invitation to exercise the human freedom to create abundance...” ― Andreas Widmer
Abraham Palma wrote:Rachel, I think you touched one of the ideas I am struggling with right now.
I think we should always have some spare time, in case we have to face the unexpected. And for our sanity, we need to spend some of our working time doing 'building' stuff. So, whenever we find ourselves without spare time, we need to think about doing some 'prunning' in our activities, starting with the activities that demand more maintenance effort. It means that we have to sacrifice some stuff in order to prevent crisis. We can't be the best friend in the neighbourhood and the best parent and the best lover and the best worker all at the same time.
I know I need to cut back some of my activities, since I'm overwhelmed with maintenance stuff right now and I understand that if left that way, I will collapse eventually. But it's so hard to decide which part of me I should sacrifice! Certainly, not the kids.
They say time's the great healer, and that's true. It's just not a very good anaesthetist, is the problem,
Whose lunar deity is not male is destined to be dominated by his wife. -- Old Hindu proverb
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